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Anshula Kapoor Reveals How Grief Alters Your Brain and Heart After Loss

Anshula Kapoor gets incredibly honest about how grief has reshaped her over a decade after her mother's passing. She explains that good news doesn't feel as joyful when you can't share it with the person you've lost. The Bollywood star's sister now craves control through routines to make life feel less unpredictable. Ultimately, she's learned that grief doesn't disappear but evolves, and she's stopped waiting to be completely healed.

Key Points: Anshula Kapoor Shares How Grief Changed Her After Mother's Death

  • Good news feels smaller without her mother to share it with
  • She now craves control through plans and routines for predictability
  • Builds emotional walls and finds trusting people more difficult
  • Has learned to become her own safe space for comfort
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Anshula Kapoor shares the various ways grief alters one's brain & heart

Arjun Kapoor's sister Anshula opens up about how losing her mother Mona Kapoor permanently changed her brain, heart, and daily life after a decade.

"Some wounds aren't meant to disappear and I've realized grief doesn't end - Anshula Kapoor"

Mumbai, Nov 8

Sister of Bollywood actor Arjun Kapoor, Anshula Kapoor, shared how grief has altered her brain and heart.

Sharing that one really does not move on from grief, especially the kind that comes from losing a parent; "you just grow around it".

Anshula, who lost her mother Mona Kapoor in 2012, penned on social media, "It’s been over a decade, and grief still finds new ways to show up.

It’s changed how I love, how I rest, how I see the world. Some days it’s quiet. Other days, it knocks the wind out of me. (sic)."

"It’s messy and exhausting - this constant push and pull between gratitude for the people still here, and the ache of knowing she’s not.

So I wrote it all down. The anger. The guilt. The walls I built. The way good news feels different now. Because grief doesn’t end. It evolves. And these are the ways it’s shaped me," she added.

The daughter of filmmaker Boney Kapoor shared the various ways her mind and heart have been altered after losing her mother.

She said, "Good news doesn't feel as good anymore. The first person I'd want to tell isn't here, and every "big" life moment feels smaller because of it."

Anshula further revealed, "I crave control now. After living through the kind of chaos that breaks you, I hold on to plans, lists, and routines. They make life feel a little less unpredictable."

"I've learned to become my own safe space. Now, a lot of the time when I need comfort, I retreat into myself," she added.

Anshula admitted that she gets angry at people who still have their moms and also hates herself for it.

"It's not jealousy, I think it's just ache dressed as anger," she penned.

From building walls to protect yourself, to harder goodbyes, to feeling older than your actual age, to having a hard time trusting anyone, she spelled out the different ways grief changes a person to the core.

Anshula further said that she has stopped waiting to be healed.

"Some wounds aren't meant to disappear and I've realized grief doesn't end. It's something you deal with constantly and have to overcome even after a decade of losing a parent", she concluded.

- IANS

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Rohit P
So brave of her to share this. In our culture, we're often told to "be strong" and move on quickly after losing someone. But grief doesn't work on a timeline. Respect for speaking her truth 🙏
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Sarah B
The part about getting angry at people who still have their moms - that's so honest. I lost my mom last year and I feel that sometimes too. It's comforting to know I'm not alone in these complicated feelings.
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Aditya G
While I appreciate her sharing, I wish she'd also mentioned seeking professional help. Grief counseling can really help process these intense emotions. Not everyone has the resources to "become their own safe space."
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Nisha Z
"You just grow around it" - what a beautiful way to put it. My nani passed away 8 years ago and I still find myself reaching for the phone to tell her things. The craving for control part is so true too! 🕊️
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Michael C
As someone who hasn't experienced such loss yet, this gives me so much perspective. We often don't understand what our friends or colleagues might be going through internally. Thank you for sharing this.

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