Create an 'advert' before you start dating!
(1 year ago)
London [UK], Apr. 12 : When you know, you just know!
You might have heard this phrase a lot number of times when your friends, colleagues, relatives find 'The One' for themselves.
If you haven't found the right person for yourself, relationship expert Madeleine Mason believes the most important technique when it comes to dating - whether online or IRL - is setting out what you're looking from from the start.
According to Mason, you should treat dating as you would when looking for an employee or job. And the first step in the recruitment process is creating an advert for your vacancy: "The more specific you are in your 'advert' the more likely you will get someone who are looking for," she says.
Here's Mason's four-step plan, as reported by The Independent, to creating your 'advert':
1. Work out what the top three or four values you're looking for are
That could be kindness, power, money, health, intelligence, benevolence, charity, open-mindedness, or creativity, for example.
2. Work out what your ideal relationship looks like
Are you living in the countryside? Do you want marriage and children? A traditional family set-up?
3. Write down an elevator pitch asking for what you are looking for
If you're only after casual dating, for example, you might write: "I'm into kindness, fun times and culture, not to be mistaken with KFC. Although a cheeky chicken after a night out with my mates wouldn't go amiss. Not looking for anything serious at the moment, but would be nice to cuddle up to someone special," Mason suggests.
4. Use this in conversation when you meet people or as part of your online bio
You're then ready to move on to the next stage - finding dates who fit your advert.