When Tabu talked about the constant human need to please others
Mumbai, July 12
Celebrated actress Tabu once spoke about how we live most of our lives for others during a heartfelt interaction with veteran actress Simi Garewal on the chat show 'Rendezvous with Simi Garewal'.
She said that as part of human nature, we tend to spend a lot of time seeking other people's validation. The 'Chandni Bar' actress added that it is almost like we are living the life of a robot.
Reflecting on her journey of self-discovery, Tabu was heard saying, "You are doing things for people. You are waking up on somebody else's time, you're going to sleep on someone else's time and you're wearing what people want you to wear. You are living this life like a robot. You forget that you are a person in yourself also. So it becomes a vicious circle".
Shedding light on the constant human need to please others, Tabu went on to add, "You are always trying to please people with your punctuality, with your professionalism, with your niceness, with your cooperative nature. You want people to say good things about you. You want people to be happy about you. Because somewhere we are all afraid that we might hurt the other person or we might spoil our prospects of work or profession. Or disappoint the other people. And you want to give an impression of being nice and perfect. And because it's human nature to look for approval".
On the professional front, Tabu was recently seen in Akshay Kumar's horror comedy 'Bhooth Bangla', made under the direction of acclaimed director Priyadarshan.
Backed by Shobha Kapoor and Ektaa R Kapoor under the banner of Balaji Telefilms, in collaboration with Akshay Kumar's banner, Cape of Good Films, 'Bhooth Bangla', also features Paresh Rawal, Wamiqa Gabbi, Rajpal Yadav, and Govardhan Asrani in significant roles, along with others.
— IANS
Reader Comments
Finally someone put it into words! The rat race of approval-seeking is exhausting. We are so worried about log kya kahenge that we forget what we really want. Tabu's journey from 'Chandni Bar' to now shows how she broke free from this. Respect!
This is a universal truth. I've seen it in corporate life in India and abroad - everyone is a robot chasing validation. Tabu's insight is profound but not easy to implement. Takes a lot of courage to break the cycle.
I think there's a balance - love and connection matter. But Tabu is absolutely right about the robotic aspect. In India, especially for women, it's so hard to break free. But small changes like saying 'no' to undesirable plans helps. Baby steps! 🌸
Deep thoughts from Tabu. But let's be honest - in Indian culture where family and community are everything, completely abandoning this need is easier said than done. We need to find a middle path, just like Bollywood balancing commercial and art films.
Waah Tabu! Always so articulate. Our generation needs to hear this - social media has made validation-seeking a pandemic. We edit photos, fake happiness for likes. But Tabu is right, it's a vicious circle. Time to break free! ✨
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