Jennifer Lopez says break-ups are not failure
Los Angeles, July 1
Actress-singer Jennifer Lopez has a different take on separation and break-ups. She doesn't view break-ups as a "failure".
The actress-singer, 56, who finalised her divorce from actor Ben Affleck in 2025, insists she's developed a philosophical attitude towards her love life, describing break-ups as a "launchpad" rather than a failure, reports 'Female First UK'.
Speaking on the Subway Takes talk show, Jennifer said, "Breakups are not a failure. I honestly feel like it's a launchpad into your next best self. We should have a party when we break up".
She went on, "People should say, 'You broke up? Congratulations' because one, you made a decision. Two, it was probably the best thing for everybody".
As per 'Female First UK', JLo believes the person who is broken up with often ends up as the "winner".
The singer, who has previously been married to Ben, Marc Anthony, Cris Judd, and Ojani Noa, said, "If you go around your life and you're breaking hearts ... you're the loser".
Jennifer also thinks break-ups create some important life lessons, as she said, "I just feel like the biggest growth spurts I've had emotionally, mentally, psychologically have always come from a heartbreak. And that's not just in romantic relationships, that's in work heartbreaks, all of it. It's the only time you dig. You're like, 'What the f*** happened? How do I do this? Why do I keep doing this? Or why didn't that happen? What could I have done better?' You change yourself".
Meanwhile, Brett Goldstein recently hailed Jennifer as a "phenomenal artist". The 45-year-old actor stars alongside Jennifer in Office Romance, the Ol Parker-directed romcom film, and Brett heaped praise on his co-star, describing Jennifer as "extraordinary".
Brett, who is best known for playing Roy Kent in Ted Lasso, the hit Apple TV series, told Extra, "I think she is a phenomenal artiste".
"I think it is extraordinary to do as many different things as she has done at the level that she has done them with the success that she has done them and how it seems to transcend time, and you know, you forget how many f****** bangers she has in her catalogue", he added.
— IANS
Reader Comments
Interesting take, but I wonder if this philosophy is easier to adopt when you have JLo's wealth and fame. For most middle-class Indians dealing with a breakup, it's not just emotional - there's family pressure, societal judgment, and financial implications. Still, I appreciate her message of self-growth.
She's been married four times and says breakups aren't failure? Sounds like someone who has gotten very comfortable with leaving relationships. There comes a point where you have to look inward and ask why you keep repeating the same patterns. Growth is important, but so is commitment.
Finally someone saying what many of us feel! In India, we're so conditioned to stay in unhappy marriages for 'log kya kahenge.' JLo is right - a breakup can be a new beginning. I wish more Indian women had the freedom to make this choice without being judged.
As an American living in India, I find this perspective refreshing. American culture can be just as judgmental about relationships as Indian culture, just in different ways. Her point about heartbreak being the biggest teacher is spot on. Some of my best personal growth came from painful breakups.
Love the optimism but let's be realistic - not every breakup leads to a 'better self.' Sometimes people just end up more hurt and bitter. Also, she says the person who gets broken up with is the 'winner' - that completely absolves people who cause the breakup of responsibility. Not every broken heart is a winner.
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