Avika Gor mulls over loneliness: Growing up is also about losing the ease of finding people who consider you important
Mumbai, July 14
Actress Avika Gor, who is known for her work in 'Balika Vadhu', '1920: Horrors of the Heart', and 'Bloody Ishq', has reflected on the concept of loneliness.
She took to her social media recently, and penned a deeply personal and thought-provoking message on social media, as she spoke about a kind of loneliness that often goes unnoticed. The actress reflected on the emotional isolation that can exist even when surrounded by people.
She wrote, "Lately, I've realized that loneliness doesn't always look like being alone. Sometimes it looks like knowing a hundred people but not knowing where you belong. Trying to fit into circles that were drawn long before you arrived can be exhausting, you can keep trying but everyone believes you don't need them or you are extremely needy and clingy. I gave all my life to my career without realising how difficult it gets with time to have people include you in their lives unconditionally".
"Nobody tells you that growing up isn't just about losing time, it's also about losing the ease of finding people who consider you as important as you consider them because you weren't ready when they were. You are more open now, you are more inclusive now. Everyone already has their circle. And sometimes, you end up knowing everyone while belonging nowhere", she added.
The note offers a glimpse into emotions that many experience but rarely express openly. By speaking about the challenges of finding genuine belonging later in life, Avika touched upon feelings that extend beyond friendships and social circles.
Her candid words reflect the emotional cost of prioritising one's career while also acknowledging how relationships evolve with time.
— IANS
Reader Comments
Honestly, this is the reality of adulting in India today. We spend our 20s grinding for that promotion, and suddenly we're 30 with a great salary but zero real connections. Her point about 'everyone already has their circle' hits hard. Respect for speaking this openly.
It's brave to admit this. In our culture, we're always told 'family is everything' but even within families, emotional loneliness can creep in. Avika is right – growing up does mean losing that childlike ease of making someone your whole world. Beautifully written, but also heartbreaking. 😢
I appreciate her honesty, but I think she's conflating career focus with a lack of effort in relationships. If you truly want connections, you have to make time for them – India's chai breaks and WhatsApp groups are full of people willing to include you if you show up. Just my two rupees. 🤔
This resonates with my experience as an NRI. You spend years building a life abroad, and when you come back to India for visits, you realize your old friends have moved on. Avika's words about 'knowing everyone but belonging nowhere' – that's my life in a nutshell.
I think she's spot on. In India's joint family system, we're never truly alone, but emotional isolation is real. Even in a crowded chawl or a bustling wedding, you can feel invisible if no one truly sees you. Her note should be a wake-up call for all of us to be more inclusive.
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