Man's virginity pledge could cause sexual confusion post-wedding
A new study has demonstrated that young men who pledge to remain virgins until their marriages, could lead to them experiencing sexual confusion even after their wedding days.
The study showed that sexual one-upmanship can all be a part of demonstrating one's manhood, especially for young men eager to exert their masculinity.
Sarah Diefendorf, a sociology graduate student at the University of Washington, said that sexual purity and pledging abstinence were most commonly thought of as feminine, something girls and young women promised before their marriages.
Diefendorf said that to maintain this gift from God, men believed they must control their urge to have sex before marriage.
She said that people thought that evangelical support groups were just about suppressing men's natural urges, but really they were a caring, supportive and safe space that allowed men to have a remarkably open and frank discussion about their sexual desires.
Diefendorf added that while the whole point of these support groups was to honor sex in marriage, these men have gotten so used to thinking about sex as something negative, that they brought those concerns with them to the marriage bed, and once the men were married, they struggled to manage those concerns in the absence of a supportive community that they once benefited from.
(Posted on 18-08-2014)