Learn work-partner balance to win her heart
Want a stable, safe and ever-romantic relationship? Invest in relationship work ethic the way you do at work.
Couples who develop a relationship work ethic that rivals - or at least equals - their professional work ethic are a happy lot.
"When people enter the workplace, they make an effort to arrive on time, be productive throughout the day, listen attentively, try to get along with others and dress themselves to make a good impression," said Jill R. Bowers, a researcher at University of Illinois.
Likewise, couples should prioritise their partner, put the same kind of energy into active listening, plan time together, find a workable solution for sharing household tasks, and handle personal stress so that it doesn't spill over into the relationship.
"This can be hard to do when you get home tired and emotionally drained. The second shift begins with household chores and the demands associated with children," she added.
Because effort at work is driven by pay, a person's career often consumes most of his or her attention.
The job gets all your energy, and there's little left over for what comes after. That's why you have to be intentional about working on your romantic partnership, Bowers noted.
The researchers measured the impact of work-partner balance skills and strategies as well as relationship satisfaction in 47 couples.
They noted that sharing household tasks continues to be a big concern for couples.
Flexible work schedules are often advocated as a way to balance work and family commitments, but these arrangements can blur the lines between work and family time.
Establishing those boundaries is difficult enough, and not having those limits can make life even more stressful.
That's why we advise taking your relationship work ethic seriously and making time for your partner intentional, Bowers said.
(Posted on 20-02-2014)